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Saturday, June 12, 2010
"I don't have anything on my list"
This story really amazed me...I like it a lot..
A wife comes to her husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered.
"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.
"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.
A wife comes to her husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered.
"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.
"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
ZONE METHOD
Some Tips that I've read on an article about how husband and wife divide housework, I really like the idea...things is I'm not really sure how to discuss with my hubby yet..soon..soon..
As a working mom sometimes you will also feel exhausted with all the responsibilities...at work at home as a wife...as a mother.. to cook..to do the cleaning...laundry an d much much more
Well the idea of sharing the work load is great!!!
1. Both of you write two lists: the household tasks that you don't mind doing and the ones you hate doing. Sometimes one of your hated tasks is one your partner doesn't mind doing at all. This is a great starting point for creating your zones.
2. Agree on two to three tasks that will always be your responsibility. Perhaps it will be your laundry as it is with my hubby and me. We also are in charge of our offices.
3. Pick at least one task you can do together. We cook and clean the kitchen together at least once a week and we also do projects like gardening or cleaning the garage to work on together. We put on some tunes and beep on our way through the task at hand.
4. Once you pick your zones, agree on a schedule to switch so that you are fresh and motivated to deal with your zone. When we first started, Larry chose to do the kitchen as a permanent zone. I had the living room and dining room. Well, he tired of the kitchen after a month or so and we switched. I LOVE doing the kitchen now after a month off and he is happily taking care of the other rooms.
5. Celebrate your success. Compliment your partner on his or her zone. Tell your partner not only how much up appreciate your newly ordered home, but how very much you appreciate the ATTITUDE of cooperation that is happening. Resentment has no place in a SOUL MATE relationship and with plans like the ZONE METHOD, you can keep those love fires burning!
As a working mom sometimes you will also feel exhausted with all the responsibilities...at work at home as a wife...as a mother.. to cook..to do the cleaning...laundry an d much much more
Well the idea of sharing the work load is great!!!
1. Both of you write two lists: the household tasks that you don't mind doing and the ones you hate doing. Sometimes one of your hated tasks is one your partner doesn't mind doing at all. This is a great starting point for creating your zones.
2. Agree on two to three tasks that will always be your responsibility. Perhaps it will be your laundry as it is with my hubby and me. We also are in charge of our offices.
3. Pick at least one task you can do together. We cook and clean the kitchen together at least once a week and we also do projects like gardening or cleaning the garage to work on together. We put on some tunes and beep on our way through the task at hand.
4. Once you pick your zones, agree on a schedule to switch so that you are fresh and motivated to deal with your zone. When we first started, Larry chose to do the kitchen as a permanent zone. I had the living room and dining room. Well, he tired of the kitchen after a month or so and we switched. I LOVE doing the kitchen now after a month off and he is happily taking care of the other rooms.
5. Celebrate your success. Compliment your partner on his or her zone. Tell your partner not only how much up appreciate your newly ordered home, but how very much you appreciate the ATTITUDE of cooperation that is happening. Resentment has no place in a SOUL MATE relationship and with plans like the ZONE METHOD, you can keep those love fires burning!
Are You Feeling Stress??
Synptoms of stress:
1. Constantly feeling tired
2. Finding it difficult to sleep over an extended period
3. Losing your appetite or eating too much over an extended period
4. Frequently getting sick or having an increase in headaches/migraines, stomach problems, or aches and pains which can't be explained
5. Constantly worrying or feeling anxious which can eventually lead to anxiety disorders and depression if not managed
6. Feeling overwhelmed having trouble making decisions
7. Experiencing extremes in your mood such as impatience, frustration, irritability, anger, anxiety, and depression which you may have difficulty controlling
8. Experiencing an increase in dependence on food , alcohol, tobacco, or drugs
1. Constantly feeling tired
2. Finding it difficult to sleep over an extended period
3. Losing your appetite or eating too much over an extended period
4. Frequently getting sick or having an increase in headaches/migraines, stomach problems, or aches and pains which can't be explained
5. Constantly worrying or feeling anxious which can eventually lead to anxiety disorders and depression if not managed
6. Feeling overwhelmed having trouble making decisions
7. Experiencing extremes in your mood such as impatience, frustration, irritability, anger, anxiety, and depression which you may have difficulty controlling
8. Experiencing an increase in dependence on food , alcohol, tobacco, or drugs
REACT VS RESPONSE
Nowadays I seemed to face problems when people around me sometimes realy really make me feel upset. Things is how to react with those situation. I realize that I have two options:
First: I would just rather throw up my anger and tell the truth that I AM NOT SATISFY WITH HIM/HER. Or may be show some sarcastics to him/her
Second: Stay calm and tried be as soft as I can and "ASK" if he/her can do this for me? Give some smile and say please....
Well I am not even sure what was happening to me lately..tension..I tend to choose the first option even though my rational said the second one is the best ever action to adapt this kind of people/situation.
Then I've seen below comments on one article on how to mange our anger by Dr. Tony Fiore:
Respond vs. react: The difference between "react" and "respond" is "automatic reflex" versus a "thoughtful, reflective response" that considers different ways of dealing with a situation. A reaction is a kneejerk, automatic action. A response, however, is dealing with a situation by considering options and likely outcomes, then choosing the best.
Now I realize even when I'm writting this entry I myself use word react...hahaha...(out of point)..but the thing is I choose to react instead of response..my bad... :(
First: I would just rather throw up my anger and tell the truth that I AM NOT SATISFY WITH HIM/HER. Or may be show some sarcastics to him/her
Second: Stay calm and tried be as soft as I can and "ASK" if he/her can do this for me? Give some smile and say please....
Well I am not even sure what was happening to me lately..tension..I tend to choose the first option even though my rational said the second one is the best ever action to adapt this kind of people/situation.
Then I've seen below comments on one article on how to mange our anger by Dr. Tony Fiore:
Respond vs. react: The difference between "react" and "respond" is "automatic reflex" versus a "thoughtful, reflective response" that considers different ways of dealing with a situation. A reaction is a kneejerk, automatic action. A response, however, is dealing with a situation by considering options and likely outcomes, then choosing the best.
Now I realize even when I'm writting this entry I myself use word react...hahaha...(out of point)..but the thing is I choose to react instead of response..my bad... :(
Sunday, June 6, 2010
I LOVE YOU....
I have good feeling today, hence would like to write something good...cheecky..ya something romantic...hehehe
Why do I love him?
Why do you love her?
Why we all love her/him?
Love..love..love
Why we love somebody??
Those romantic people will say "You fill up my senses, like the mountains in spring time" wow!!!
For me..I love him because he loves me even with all my fault.Even when I'm grumpy, you still like me.I can ask you a dumb question without feeling dumb.You never give up on me and that's what keeps me going.
Enjoy this...
Why do I love him?
Why do you love her?
Why we all love her/him?
Love..love..love
Why we love somebody??
Those romantic people will say "You fill up my senses, like the mountains in spring time" wow!!!
For me..I love him because he loves me even with all my fault.Even when I'm grumpy, you still like me.I can ask you a dumb question without feeling dumb.You never give up on me and that's what keeps me going.
Enjoy this...
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