Saturday, June 19, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
"I don't have anything on my list"
This story really amazed me...I like it a lot..
A wife comes to her husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered.
"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.
"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.
A wife comes to her husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered.
"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.
"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
ZONE METHOD
Some Tips that I've read on an article about how husband and wife divide housework, I really like the idea...things is I'm not really sure how to discuss with my hubby yet..soon..soon..
As a working mom sometimes you will also feel exhausted with all the responsibilities...at work at home as a wife...as a mother.. to cook..to do the cleaning...laundry an d much much more
Well the idea of sharing the work load is great!!!
1. Both of you write two lists: the household tasks that you don't mind doing and the ones you hate doing. Sometimes one of your hated tasks is one your partner doesn't mind doing at all. This is a great starting point for creating your zones.
2. Agree on two to three tasks that will always be your responsibility. Perhaps it will be your laundry as it is with my hubby and me. We also are in charge of our offices.
3. Pick at least one task you can do together. We cook and clean the kitchen together at least once a week and we also do projects like gardening or cleaning the garage to work on together. We put on some tunes and beep on our way through the task at hand.
4. Once you pick your zones, agree on a schedule to switch so that you are fresh and motivated to deal with your zone. When we first started, Larry chose to do the kitchen as a permanent zone. I had the living room and dining room. Well, he tired of the kitchen after a month or so and we switched. I LOVE doing the kitchen now after a month off and he is happily taking care of the other rooms.
5. Celebrate your success. Compliment your partner on his or her zone. Tell your partner not only how much up appreciate your newly ordered home, but how very much you appreciate the ATTITUDE of cooperation that is happening. Resentment has no place in a SOUL MATE relationship and with plans like the ZONE METHOD, you can keep those love fires burning!
As a working mom sometimes you will also feel exhausted with all the responsibilities...at work at home as a wife...as a mother.. to cook..to do the cleaning...laundry an d much much more
Well the idea of sharing the work load is great!!!
1. Both of you write two lists: the household tasks that you don't mind doing and the ones you hate doing. Sometimes one of your hated tasks is one your partner doesn't mind doing at all. This is a great starting point for creating your zones.
2. Agree on two to three tasks that will always be your responsibility. Perhaps it will be your laundry as it is with my hubby and me. We also are in charge of our offices.
3. Pick at least one task you can do together. We cook and clean the kitchen together at least once a week and we also do projects like gardening or cleaning the garage to work on together. We put on some tunes and beep on our way through the task at hand.
4. Once you pick your zones, agree on a schedule to switch so that you are fresh and motivated to deal with your zone. When we first started, Larry chose to do the kitchen as a permanent zone. I had the living room and dining room. Well, he tired of the kitchen after a month or so and we switched. I LOVE doing the kitchen now after a month off and he is happily taking care of the other rooms.
5. Celebrate your success. Compliment your partner on his or her zone. Tell your partner not only how much up appreciate your newly ordered home, but how very much you appreciate the ATTITUDE of cooperation that is happening. Resentment has no place in a SOUL MATE relationship and with plans like the ZONE METHOD, you can keep those love fires burning!
Are You Feeling Stress??
Synptoms of stress:
1. Constantly feeling tired
2. Finding it difficult to sleep over an extended period
3. Losing your appetite or eating too much over an extended period
4. Frequently getting sick or having an increase in headaches/migraines, stomach problems, or aches and pains which can't be explained
5. Constantly worrying or feeling anxious which can eventually lead to anxiety disorders and depression if not managed
6. Feeling overwhelmed having trouble making decisions
7. Experiencing extremes in your mood such as impatience, frustration, irritability, anger, anxiety, and depression which you may have difficulty controlling
8. Experiencing an increase in dependence on food , alcohol, tobacco, or drugs
1. Constantly feeling tired
2. Finding it difficult to sleep over an extended period
3. Losing your appetite or eating too much over an extended period
4. Frequently getting sick or having an increase in headaches/migraines, stomach problems, or aches and pains which can't be explained
5. Constantly worrying or feeling anxious which can eventually lead to anxiety disorders and depression if not managed
6. Feeling overwhelmed having trouble making decisions
7. Experiencing extremes in your mood such as impatience, frustration, irritability, anger, anxiety, and depression which you may have difficulty controlling
8. Experiencing an increase in dependence on food , alcohol, tobacco, or drugs
REACT VS RESPONSE
Nowadays I seemed to face problems when people around me sometimes realy really make me feel upset. Things is how to react with those situation. I realize that I have two options:
First: I would just rather throw up my anger and tell the truth that I AM NOT SATISFY WITH HIM/HER. Or may be show some sarcastics to him/her
Second: Stay calm and tried be as soft as I can and "ASK" if he/her can do this for me? Give some smile and say please....
Well I am not even sure what was happening to me lately..tension..I tend to choose the first option even though my rational said the second one is the best ever action to adapt this kind of people/situation.
Then I've seen below comments on one article on how to mange our anger by Dr. Tony Fiore:
Respond vs. react: The difference between "react" and "respond" is "automatic reflex" versus a "thoughtful, reflective response" that considers different ways of dealing with a situation. A reaction is a kneejerk, automatic action. A response, however, is dealing with a situation by considering options and likely outcomes, then choosing the best.
Now I realize even when I'm writting this entry I myself use word react...hahaha...(out of point)..but the thing is I choose to react instead of response..my bad... :(
First: I would just rather throw up my anger and tell the truth that I AM NOT SATISFY WITH HIM/HER. Or may be show some sarcastics to him/her
Second: Stay calm and tried be as soft as I can and "ASK" if he/her can do this for me? Give some smile and say please....
Well I am not even sure what was happening to me lately..tension..I tend to choose the first option even though my rational said the second one is the best ever action to adapt this kind of people/situation.
Then I've seen below comments on one article on how to mange our anger by Dr. Tony Fiore:
Respond vs. react: The difference between "react" and "respond" is "automatic reflex" versus a "thoughtful, reflective response" that considers different ways of dealing with a situation. A reaction is a kneejerk, automatic action. A response, however, is dealing with a situation by considering options and likely outcomes, then choosing the best.
Now I realize even when I'm writting this entry I myself use word react...hahaha...(out of point)..but the thing is I choose to react instead of response..my bad... :(
Sunday, June 6, 2010
I LOVE YOU....
I have good feeling today, hence would like to write something good...cheecky..ya something romantic...hehehe
Why do I love him?
Why do you love her?
Why we all love her/him?
Love..love..love
Why we love somebody??
Those romantic people will say "You fill up my senses, like the mountains in spring time" wow!!!
For me..I love him because he loves me even with all my fault.Even when I'm grumpy, you still like me.I can ask you a dumb question without feeling dumb.You never give up on me and that's what keeps me going.
Enjoy this...
Why do I love him?
Why do you love her?
Why we all love her/him?
Love..love..love
Why we love somebody??
Those romantic people will say "You fill up my senses, like the mountains in spring time" wow!!!
For me..I love him because he loves me even with all my fault.Even when I'm grumpy, you still like me.I can ask you a dumb question without feeling dumb.You never give up on me and that's what keeps me going.
Enjoy this...
Saturday, June 5, 2010
How You Define Hapiness
Is it a matter of getting what you want?
Or may be..
How you feel about what you have?
Like me, to cheer myself I would go shopping and buy things that I like.
So what are some strategies that make you happy? For some of it might be just the smell of an apple pie in the oven , or the taste of it in your mouth!
Others might look to an accomplishment to make them happy.
For an author perhaps it is finally finishing a book, for a mountain climber it may be reaching the peak, and for a bird watcher see that special bird he/she has been watching for.
Still others may find happiness in the world of nature, a spectacular sunset, a beautiful bird, the calming effect of the ocean or a lake.
If we do not take responsibility for our own happiness no one else will. If we are not happy, our relationships will not be satisfying and our other priorities will suffer.
So really knowing what makes you happy is a critical issue. It affects your whole life.
It’s a honnour for me to share what makes me happy.. I have my own list..waht about you guys?
1)Hugs and kisses from my hubby
2)Lying with my husband in bed and laughing at a totally dorky, ridiculous inside joke.
3)When my daughter says…”Mama…”
4)Day nap with my daughter
5)Being a mom and feeling like I’m nailing it even for a moment.
6)Shopping…erm...money..yes money makes me happy
7)Food glorious food …monte (bangsar village…surf n turf..mmm…garlic bread…OMG!)
8)Free stuffs
9)Cup of good tasting dark cofee or mocha
10)Lots of ice in my cold drinks
11)Day dream
12)Reading love story books
13)Having an entire day to just sit around and read
14)Breezy days
15)Ocean
16)Vacation
17)Movies
18)Loosing weight
19)Cooking a great dinner and keeping family happy.
20)Dancing to a favorite song
21)Feeling of accomplishment after getting something done
22)Not waking up to an alarm (in my own bed)
23)Sitting in a coffee shop & people watching
24)Being early instead of late
25)Drive to work (ya!! I like drive to work :-P)
26)A tidy living room with everything in its place, even it's quite hard if you have 1 year old kid
27)Going to bed in freshly washed and dried sheets
28)Being told you look nice
29)Seeing my daughter wearing cute pink dress or skirt..adorable..
30)Knowing there’s tomorrow
31)Knowing i have cute new clothes to wear for tomorrow.
32)My hair looking good
33)Feeling confident
34)People who are super passionate about something–anything, really
35)Thinking that maybe somewhere along the way, I made a difference in somebody’s life.
I have lots of reasons and things that make me happy. Whenever I feel sad.. ya I do cry to let it out, then I will do something that makes me happy. So as I shared before in my previous entry, life is about choices. Yo can choose to BE HAPPY.
As a muslim this what we call as "BERSYUKUR' :)
Walau kita rasa susah dalam sesuatu situasi, jangan terlalu lama mengikut persaan sedih. Bila kita sedih, kita boleh menjadi seorang yang menyalahkan orang sekeliling atau situasi itu sendiri. Ingatlah yang kita tak mugkin sentiasa bahagia, pasti ada duka, kerana itu adalah lumrah hidup, juga Dugaaan dari Yang ESA.
Jika kita bijak mengawal sesuatu situasi sedih, maka kita telah menjadi seorang yang HEBAT. DA.. SHA IGNIN JADI ORANG YANG HEBAT!!!!!
WHEN LIFE SHOWS YOU HUNDREDS REASONS TO CRY, SHOW LIFE THAT YOU HAVE THOUSANDS REASON TO SMILE.
May be some people will say ya it's looks easy when you have a good life..if me i will say what make you think my life is easy?
Setuju??
Last but not least.. for those who feel down.. SMILE DARLING...
Or may be..
How you feel about what you have?
Like me, to cheer myself I would go shopping and buy things that I like.
So what are some strategies that make you happy? For some of it might be just the smell of an apple pie in the oven , or the taste of it in your mouth!
Others might look to an accomplishment to make them happy.
For an author perhaps it is finally finishing a book, for a mountain climber it may be reaching the peak, and for a bird watcher see that special bird he/she has been watching for.
Still others may find happiness in the world of nature, a spectacular sunset, a beautiful bird, the calming effect of the ocean or a lake.
If we do not take responsibility for our own happiness no one else will. If we are not happy, our relationships will not be satisfying and our other priorities will suffer.
So really knowing what makes you happy is a critical issue. It affects your whole life.
It’s a honnour for me to share what makes me happy.. I have my own list..waht about you guys?
1)Hugs and kisses from my hubby
2)Lying with my husband in bed and laughing at a totally dorky, ridiculous inside joke.
3)When my daughter says…”Mama…”
4)Day nap with my daughter
5)Being a mom and feeling like I’m nailing it even for a moment.
6)Shopping…erm...money..yes money makes me happy
7)Food glorious food …monte (bangsar village…surf n turf..mmm…garlic bread…OMG!)
8)Free stuffs
9)Cup of good tasting dark cofee or mocha
10)Lots of ice in my cold drinks
11)Day dream
12)Reading love story books
13)Having an entire day to just sit around and read
14)Breezy days
15)Ocean
16)Vacation
17)Movies
18)Loosing weight
19)Cooking a great dinner and keeping family happy.
20)Dancing to a favorite song
21)Feeling of accomplishment after getting something done
22)Not waking up to an alarm (in my own bed)
23)Sitting in a coffee shop & people watching
24)Being early instead of late
25)Drive to work (ya!! I like drive to work :-P)
26)A tidy living room with everything in its place, even it's quite hard if you have 1 year old kid
27)Going to bed in freshly washed and dried sheets
28)Being told you look nice
29)Seeing my daughter wearing cute pink dress or skirt..adorable..
30)Knowing there’s tomorrow
31)Knowing i have cute new clothes to wear for tomorrow.
32)My hair looking good
33)Feeling confident
34)People who are super passionate about something–anything, really
35)Thinking that maybe somewhere along the way, I made a difference in somebody’s life.
I have lots of reasons and things that make me happy. Whenever I feel sad.. ya I do cry to let it out, then I will do something that makes me happy. So as I shared before in my previous entry, life is about choices. Yo can choose to BE HAPPY.
As a muslim this what we call as "BERSYUKUR' :)
Walau kita rasa susah dalam sesuatu situasi, jangan terlalu lama mengikut persaan sedih. Bila kita sedih, kita boleh menjadi seorang yang menyalahkan orang sekeliling atau situasi itu sendiri. Ingatlah yang kita tak mugkin sentiasa bahagia, pasti ada duka, kerana itu adalah lumrah hidup, juga Dugaaan dari Yang ESA.
Jika kita bijak mengawal sesuatu situasi sedih, maka kita telah menjadi seorang yang HEBAT. DA.. SHA IGNIN JADI ORANG YANG HEBAT!!!!!
WHEN LIFE SHOWS YOU HUNDREDS REASONS TO CRY, SHOW LIFE THAT YOU HAVE THOUSANDS REASON TO SMILE.
May be some people will say ya it's looks easy when you have a good life..if me i will say what make you think my life is easy?
Setuju??
Last but not least.. for those who feel down.. SMILE DARLING...
She likes swimming
First time we brought her to the pool when she was 11 months.... Nisrin loves to switch so much. Taking hours to consult her to go home. Well I was thinking nowadays, should I register her for class...hmmm...
Here is Nisrin Qaisara
Here is Nisrin Qaisara
Man of My Life
Me and my husband always think differently, likes things differently.
We cant ever go shopping together. Nightmares!!!. He even do something that I never ever thought that people will do. Same goes to me. I found he is weird , he found me wierd the way I am.
We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
It’s varieties !!!! Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart
We cant ever go shopping together. Nightmares!!!. He even do something that I never ever thought that people will do. Same goes to me. I found he is weird , he found me wierd the way I am.
We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
It’s varieties !!!! Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart
Dear hubby,
For you see, each day I love you more.
For you see, each day I love you more.
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them
laugh, but you can
never truly love someone until you find out what makes
them cry
Friday, June 4, 2010
Nisrin Qaisara
I still remember vividly the moment that I became a mother. Not in the physical sense, but in the spiritual sense.
It wasn’t the moment of conception, or the day that I found out that I was pregnant.It wasn’t when I felt the first kick of my precious child’s little foot,nor was it when they lifted her and placed her in my arms.
It was in a moment of blinding joy the night after she was born.
I felt as if my heart swelled several sizes and then I burst into tears.I was absolutely overwhelmed by the need to protect her, love her and do whatever was necessary to make sure she was perfectly happy.
The world seemed to stop spinning; only she and I existed. Nothing else mattered.Thoughts of a career, my resolve to get a sitter so thatI could have time to myself and my determination to not let my child be the center of my life were now laughable. My purpose for existence was her well being. I am now thinking on the diverse side, I still working, even working hard to provide the best for her life…good education, 1st class medical treatment, all needs that a grown up child ever needed… Perhaps everything!!!
I discovered that there was no such thing as spoiling a baby and found that one of the greatest joys of my life was rocking my baby to sleep.
I even saw my marriage in a different, even lovelier, light. Watching my husband be a father and seeing how gentle he was with my little ones made me love him even more.
I would sacrifice anything to protect my daughter. Before having child, I didn’t realize what it was like to love in this way.
Life is all about choices
Life is all about choices.We choose on how we react to situations.
We can choose to be in a good mood or we can choose to be in a bad mood.
"I choose to be in a good mood."
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it.
"I choose to learn from it."
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life.
"I choose the positive side of life.”
"The bottom line: It’s our choice how we live life.”
We can choose to be in a good mood or we can choose to be in a bad mood.
"I choose to be in a good mood."
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it.
"I choose to learn from it."
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life.
"I choose the positive side of life.”
"The bottom line: It’s our choice how we live life.”
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